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Our Staff (clockwise
from left):
John Mariner, Judi Spendelow, Howard Lambert, Mary
Simon, Mike Misgen, and Roslyn Cantrell
The Relationship Resource Center was
founded in 1994 for the purpose of providing the highest
quality psychotherapy services and personal growth
workshops for people in the greater Denver area.
Workshop participants say . . .
"As presenters, you guys were awesome!
The content was great, the energy was high, and the
material was useful."
". . . no fluff,
just real stuff!"
"Excellent and
beneficial. The tools are invaluable."
"This material will help me at work as well as in my
relationship."
"Wow! I can easily use
this stuff at home."
"Your workshop go us
out of the mess our relationship was in."
We had a good marriage--this workshop gave us a terrific
marriage!"
"I was ready to end this
marriage, now I know it can be saved."
"I
actually learned how to be more compassionate with the
people I love."
"The material was clear.
The workbook helped me 'get it.' I learned so much."
Contact the Relationship Resource Center:
Email:
relationshipresourcecen@juno.com
Web:
www.relationshipresourcecenter.com
Phone: 303-321-1108
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Relationship Reflections has a New Look!
That's right,
our print newsletter has been retired, and we're pleased to
announce our new online newsletter.
We look forward to bringing
you valuable relationship tips and exciting announcements of upcoming
events with each issue.
Relationship Tip of the
Month
by Mary J. Simon, Psy.D.
Practice Self-Esteem
You can love others only as
well as you love yourself. So, in order to build healthy
relationships, you have to start with yourself. Learn
the art of loving yourself at no one’s expense. Practice
holding yourself in warm regard in spite of your flaws and
imperfections.
Self-esteem is knowing and feeling
deeply our own intrinsic value, despite our failures and shortcomings and
others’ inconsistent valuing of us.
Our value as human beings lies in the capacities
that are inherent to us as humans. These include our capacity to be
compassionate and caring, our ability to appreciate beauty, our drive to improve
things even just a little, our ability to form connections with others, and our
instinct to protect those we love.
Being aware
of, and living from, these core human qualities constitutes true self-esteem.
In addition, when we recognize our own value in this way, we of necessity
acknowledge that every other human being has these same capacities (whether or
not they are currently displaying them!) and therefore has the same intrinsic
value as ourselves.
Here’s a short exercise to help you.
Think of a time recently when you
felt upset and/or bad about yourself. Now,
1. List
3 things you could do in such a situation to improve (a little
bit) how you
feel, regardless of what anyone else does, e.g. take a walk, listen to music,
take a warm bath.
2. List
three things of beauty, natural or humanly created, that you can appreciate.
Resolve to actively appreciate those things. For instance, if you wrote, “the
mountains”, plan a trip to the mountains soon.
3. List
at least three people you love and feel the warm glow of experiencing caring
connection.
4.
List
three compassionate things you have done in your life. Feel the compassion.
5. List
three things you do or have done to protect or support others. Feel the
strength that comes with being protective and supportive.
If you do even one of these,
you will feel better. If you do two, you will begin to feel better yet. If you
do three or more, you will find yourself feeling GREAT!
Try this practice daily and experience the joy of
living in and from a place of high self-esteem.
(Based on the work of Steven Stofny)
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Upcoming Events
Terry Real Live! Making Love Work: Saturday, October 13
Individuals, couples and marriage
counselors
alike will be introduced to a new way of life and a new
approach to relationships presented by one of the industry
leaders in relationships and growth.
To Register for this event, go to:
www.peoplehouse.org
and click on the Terry Real Event, or call Katie at
303-480-5130.
Growing In Relationships:
Saturday, October 277
Relationships get
"stuck" when people do not know how to move themselves from
disharmony into repair and back into harmony. This workshop
will teach five Relational Skills that are essential for
moving through the cycle so that your relationships can
continue to grow.>
Register Here
Growing In Intimacy-Getting The Love You Want:
Saturday & Sunday, November 17 - 18
This transformative and inspirational weekend seminar will
assist you and your partner in creating the relationship of
your dreams.
Register Here. Save $50!
by attending
Growing In Relationships
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